8 Remarkable Graves with Incredible Back Stories

By: Jessica Farren
Thursday, May 4, 2023

Have you ever wandered through a cemetery, spotted a beautiful headstone and pondered about the life that may have inspired it? If you have, you are not alone.Cemeteries inspire a natural curiosity in all of us.

They reflect a lot about the people whose remains are interred within them, as well as their customs and beliefs about the afterlife. In addition to being the final resting places of the dead, cemeteries are also sculpture gardens. Some of the statues and engraved illustrations you find chiseled into headstones are truly remarkable.

In older cemeteries, visitors have an opportunity to get a glimpse of the past by taking in the old headstone symbols and reading ancient inscriptions. Modern cemeteries, meanwhile, demonstrate the meaningful and creative ways families have memorialized their loved ones with the resources we have available today.

Whether old or new, it is impossible to view an intricately designed monument without thinking of the love and grief that must have inspired its creation. From their inscriptions to their illustrations to the manner in which the stone is carved, gravestones carry fascinating stories within them.

Here are 8 Unique Graves with Incredible Stories Behind Them
1. The Grave of the Clasped Hands
Located in Het Oude Kerkhof (The Old Cemetery) in Roermond, Netherlands

This beautiful and remarkable gravesite deserves to be first on our list because, in addition to being the final resting place of two
individuals, it has also become a powerful symbol of love and unity in the face of religious division. In the 1800s, Dutch society subscribed to a policy of “Pillarisation” which segregated religious communities at every level.This included the establishment of separate Catholic and Protestant cemeteries. Despite the rules which dictated the times, a protestant colonel named JWC van
Gorkum and a Roman Catholic noblewoman named J.C.P.H. van Aefferden fell in love and wed in 1842.While the two were met with disapproval throughout their marriage, they remained devoted to one another and were often seen walking, holding hands together.


When van Gorkum died in 1880, it was required that he be buried in the Protestant section of the local cemetery. So, van Aefferden made arrangements to ensure she would not be separated from her husband in death. Her final wishes included instructions not to bury her in her family’s plot in the Catholic cemetery but rather to place her as close as possible to her husband’s grave on the other side of a brick wall divider. The grave depicts two hands reaching out and clasping over the
wall that separates them. While the 19th century gravestones were certainly a visual protest against the Dutch society at the time, the message that they symbolize is still just as relevant today as it was in the 1880s. The walls that divide us are not as strong as the love that unites us.

2. Matthew Stanford Robinson Memorial
Located in Salt Lake City Cemetery in Salt Lake City, UT

The undying love of a mother and father inspired the creation of this incredible monument. The bronze statue depicts a little boy rising above his disability and being lifted up to heaven. His face is turned upward, and his arm reaches towards the sky. The sculpture was created in memory of a little boy named Matthew Stanford Robinson who had cerebral palsy and spent his
entire life in a wheelchair. After Matthew’s passing in 1999, his parents wanted to be reminded when visiting his grave that he was now free of the limitations he was burdened with on Earth. This led Matthew’s father to reach out to a cousin who was a sculptor to help build the monument he envisioned.

Over the years, the statue has touched the hearts of so many people. Images of it have gone viral on social media many times. This had resulted in the family receiving a lot of attention and using their platform to help others. The Robinson family founded a non-profit called Ability Found, which matches people with free or discounted wheelchairs as well as other mobility supplies. The charity helps raise money both through donations and selling miniature replicas of Matthew’s grave statue.

3. The Bean Tombstone Puzzle
Located in Rushes Cemetery in Wellesley, Ontario

For more than 100 years, visitors who saw the shared headstone of Henrietta and Susanna Bean remained stumped as to what the enigmatic crossword code engraved on the stone might say. They took grave rub-bings and attempted to decipher the message, only to come up blank. What was known was that in 1867, a man named Dr. Samuel Bean had erected the stone in
secret for his two wives, who had both died within a few years of one another. Bean had the two women buried side-by-side beneath the mysterious stone and, before he could share its meaning with anyone, met his own untimely end when he drowned after falling overboard a sailboat.

It wasn’t until a 94-year-old woman living in a nearby retirement home figured it out in the 1970s that anyone knew the answer to Dr. Bean’s puzzle. While we’ll never know what inspired Dr. Bean to create such a perplexing engraving for his two brides, at least the mystery of the epitaph has now been solved. We included the answer below, but feel free to skip ahead if you would like to attempt to decipher the code yourself.

Beginning on the seventh character of the seventh row down and reading in a spiral or sometimes diagonal fashion, the inscription reads: “In memoriam Henrietta, Ist wife of S. Bean, M.D. who died 27th Sep. 1865, aged 23 years, 2 months and 17 days and Susanna his 2nd wife who died 27th April, 1867, aged 26 years, 10 months and 15 days, 2 better wives 1 man never had, they were gifts from God but are now in Heaven. May God help me, S.B., to meet them there.”

4. “Jane, My Wife” Tomb
Located in Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn, NY

The historic Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn, NY is filled with so many striking and notable monuments, but one that is especially moving is the tomb of Jane Griffith. The carving on the monument showing a woman standing on the front steps of a brownstone home with a man standing up looking at her from the sidewalk takes on a much more powerful meaning when you know the heartbreaking story behind it. The woman in the carving is Jane, and the man is her husband, Charles Griffith. The scene depicted on the tomb is representative of the last time the couple was together. Charles returned from work after saying
goodbye to his wife on their front steps that morning to find Jane had died unexpectedly of heart failure. His grief over her death was so immense he commissioned a renowned sculptor to carve out the tragic scene in three-dimensional detail for her tomb. It is said that Charles visited Jane’s grave regularly until he joined her in death 25 years later.

5. Afterglow Vista
Located in Roche Harbor Cemetery in Friday Harbor, Washington

Afterglow Vista appears more like a Roman temple hidden in the woods than a mausoleum. At the end of a cobblestone pathway that cuts through the forest sits this stunning burial structure. The impressive open-air rotunda featuring six massive pillars connected by an intricately carved ring at the top that looks as though it were transported from another century. In the center
lies a huge limestone table surrounded by stone chairs.

Built in 1936, Afterglow Vista (also known as the Mc-Millin Memorial Mausoleum) is the final resting of limestone magnate, John S. McMillion, and his family.McMillion’s company was the largest producer of lime on the West Coast, providing him with funds needed to commission such a grand monument for himself and his children. Afterglow Vista is also steeped in symbolism
with every detail painstakingly selected for a very specific reason.

6. The Tomb with a Stairway
Located in Natchez City Cemetery in Natchez, MS

To be a parent in the 1800s truly took a great deal of courage. Around half of all children died before ever reaching the age of puberty, creating a wave of grief-stricken mothers and fathers that cut across cultures and class levels. You don’t have to look any further than President Lincoln and First Lady Mary Todd to see how these tragedies impacted the people of the time. For every known story, there are thousands more that have gone untold. While it is difficult to think too long about all of those innocent children taken away too soon, it is a reminder of how fortunate we are to live during a time when the risk of death for children is significantly smaller.

One story of a mother’s grief that has stood the test of time was that of Ellen Ford. When Ellen’s daughter, Florence Irene Ford, passed away at the age of 10 due to yellow fever, she asked for her grave to be built with a small window with stairs leading down to the casket.During her life, Florence would often become afraid during thunderstorms and her mother would comfort
her until it passed. Ellen wanted to be able to continue comforting her daughter during thunderstorms. She had Florence’s grave built with metal trap doors above the stairwell so that she could go down to visit and remain protected from the elements. Today, the grave remains virtually unchanged, although a concrete wall was added to block the view of the casket through the
window to ward off any vandals. The stairwell beside the grave remains as a powerful visual reminder of the enduring power of a mother’s love.

7. The Haunting Grave of Fernand Abelot
Located in Père Lachaise Cemetery in Paris, France

When you see the grave statue of Fernand Abelot depicting a man laying down and holding a decapitated head, your first thought is probably not: aww that’s so romantic! You’re not alone.The grave is frequently found on lists such as “The creepiest graves in the world.” Located in the famous Père Lachaise Cemetery, one of the most celebrated cemeteries in the world, the stone still commands attention despite the many other noteworthy gravesites nearby and the fact that very little is known about Abelot. What is known is that his grave is a reflection of his last wish, which was to be depicted gazing upon his wife’s face for all
eternity. (We can’t help but wonder if he might have wished for the rest of her body to be there as well.) The epitaph to the headstone reads: “They marveled at the beauty of the journey that brought them to the end of life.”

8. The Tomb inside of a Boulder
Located on private property in Youngsville, NC


“Don’t put me in the ground! Bury me in a rock!”

So went the last wish of William Jeffreys, a young state senator from North Carolina whose deathbed fever hallucinations resulted in a very unique tomb. Jeffreys’ fear of being devoured by worms after his burial led to him beseeching his father to entomb him inside a giant boulder. Upon his death, his father made good on his promise and commissioned a stonemason to determine how this could be accomplished. The stonemason, who was a friend of the family familiar with the family’s property, told him the perfect boulder for such a tomb could be found on the edge of their land. For over a year, he chiseled out Jeffrey’s unconventional tomb from the 10-foot-tall boulder, including a marble slab with an engraving.

Jessica (Fowler) Farren is the Public Relations Specialist and Staff Writer at ASD – Answering Service for Directors. She has answered the calls of funeral homes nationwide for more than 19 years. Jessica manages ASD’s company blog, social media accounts and digital marketing. She has been published in numerous funeral trade magazines and has written articles on a
variety of subjects including communication, marketing, business planning, technology and funeral trends.To contact Jessica, call 800-868-9950 or email jess@myASD.com.

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